Engagement Ring
History & Traditions
History
The history of the engagement ring custom is at best uncertain. Some sort of token of an intent to join in union is found in much of recorded history, however the details vary considerably between societies. It seems that the engagement ring is probably a later tradition than the much older wedding ring.
The earliest clear example of an engagement token in the form of a finger ring is probably the betrothal ring of the early Greeks
and Romans. Although the Roman rings were usually definite betrothal rings symbolising intent
to wed, the Greek tradition was less clear and sometimes just indicated lifelong
friendship.
On a practical note, marriage often had significant financial implications in terms of the dowry etc. The giving and acceptance of the ring was seen as as effectively entering into a contract - whether or not such a contract was legally binding would have depended on local law at the time.
Traditions
Romantic tradition says that the man should buy the engagement ring in secret and offer it to his beloved when proposing. Today it's becoming increasingly common for couples to make important decisions such as engagement and the purchase of rings together.
Customs regarding the engagement ring vary from country to country. For instance the
issue of which finger on which hand should display the ring depend on local
custom. There are also legal differences between countries as to whether or not the
engagement ring is a "conditional" or an "absolute" gift - important in those unfortunate cases where
the relationship breaks down before the wedding takes place.